Before I found out I was pregnant with Olivia, I was surer than sure that one day I’d be that annoying mom – posting pictures of my children continuously across each and every social channel. I imagined a well planned “we’re expecting” photoshoot. I saw us crafting an overly stereotypical gender reveal post. And I was sure that either one or both of us with be uploading a “welcome to the world” photo to Facebook within minutes of delivery. I mean, I half expected to be live tweeting my labor. (Kidding, kind of.)

But when I actually became pregnant, I was surprised to find myself feeling protective of our news. Leading up to the 3 month “safe zone”, I began thinking that perhaps sharing every pregnancy symptom and milestone on Facebook wasn’t for me. I started treasuring my pregnancy in a very private, and personal way, and I suddenly felt as if sharing anything on social media (let alone over-sharing) was borderline inappropriate. Our challenges between weeks 12 – 24 reinforced my hesitation to keep our pregnancy progress off social media, and it was only after we received as many positive prenatal tests results as we possibly could receive that I finally agreed to share with the Facebook world we were expecting.

Then Olivia was born. Sweet, sweet Olivia. How I imagined Olivia coming into this world was far from how it happened, and these first couple of weeks with our little girl have rocked us to our cores.

Once again, I found myself feeling protective of my little girl, my new family of 3, our unexpected and heartbreaking situation. In the days following my delivery, I wanted to talk to only family and a small handful of friends. Some of the women I’ve always considered best friends didn’t learn I had gone into labor for almost 2 weeks.

Days went by and Luke began asking whether I was comfortable sharing our news on Facebook. As we approached my due date, I agreed it was an appropriate time. Too many people were texting us, asking how I was doing in anticipation of my due date. And we were happy. We were proud to be parents, and proud of our little girl, and wanted to share her with the world.

With over 500 reactions and almost 100 comments, I’d say our little girl made quite the splash in the social world. Making mommy and daddy and the BN world proud.

In the hours and days following Olivia’s birth, Luke and I became acutely aware of the life-threatening nature of Olivia’s delivery. What seemed like a reasonably easy delivery for mom, caused incredibly serious trauma to our little girl.

Below is a summary of the issues and injuries sustained by Olivia during birth:

1. Lack of oxygen.
   • The team saw continuous and prolonged drops in her heart rate throughout labor. It’s unclear how much stress she was under, and if this actually had any long term effect.
   • The umbilical cord was wrapped tightly around her neck at delivery. This also introduced a concern of hypoxia.
   • Her inability to breathe on her own post-delivery resulted in her being immediately “bagged” after birth and later incubated. We’re still unsure if or how long she went without oxygen.
2. Severe hemorrhaging from the vacuum assisted birth. These were initially considered to be the most severe and life-threatening injuries. This is also what caused (or was closely related to) most subsequent, acute issues in Olivia’s first weeks of life. Some include:
   • Subgaleal hemorrhage – a hemorrhage between the scalp and skull bone (above the periosteum). This is the most extensive bleeding (the space can accumulate more blood than Olivia’s total blood volume). It’s also more prone to complications, such as anemia and bruising.
   • Cephalhematoma – a hemorrhage found between the skull and periosteum.
   • Minor bleeding within her brain.
3. All of her head bleeds resulted in serious anemia (low red blood cells).
4. Acidosis (acidic blood), in addition to the subgaleal hemorrhage was another acute and intense condition immediately following delivery.
5. She received several blood transfusions in the first few days of life to try and correct the anemia, acidosis, and her inability to form blood clots.
6. A small stroke suffered during (or immediately after) birth.
7. Many of the above-described issues introduced the concern for swelling and possibility of brain damage, which made her a candidate for cooling therapy, a process that induces a mild hypothermia to reduce the brain’s need for oxygen and slow the various processes that otherwise result in damage. She was put on a cooling blanket for 72 hours post birth.

Despite their severity, today Olivia has recovered from most all of these events. But what we now know is that Olivia’s story is twofold: there is the story of how Olivia was born, which we described here and above, and the story of how Olivia was made.

Her birth story, while traumatic, may not be her biggest battle.

The story of how Olivia was made is still one that we and her primary team are working every day to understand. This story, if ever known, holds the keys to why delivery was so hard and what this life holds for her.

We don’t have all of the answers and we may never get some, but we hope for happily ever after.

Olivia was supposed to be a May baby. Although I’m not a huge fan of the emerald birthstone, I really looked forward to sharing a birth month with my daughter. May’s a good month, I thought. And a May Day or Cinco de Mayo birthday would give her years worth of fun celebrations.

My original estimated due date was May 6, but Olivia’s birth story instead began on the morning of April 23.

Luke and I woke up early that Saturday. More accurately, I suppose, is that Luke woke up early. To golf. The season had not yet officially started at Oak Hill, but he was eager to get in as many weekends of playing as possible before the little one arrived. I was half awake as he got ready to leave. Not thinking much of it, I said “Keep your phone on, just in case. Check it at least in between holes.” He promised he would, despite the fact I had just recently resigned myself to believe – no matter how uncomfortable I was – I would not be delivering early. I had two more long, uncomfortable weeks to make it through!

I fell back asleep and woke up a couple of hours later. Around 9:20AM I finally got out of bed. My water broke just minutes later. At first I couldn’t believe it. Maybe this was just pee. Everyone does warn you that as a very pregnant lady, strange things happen. (TMI, sorry.) I made it a few steps across the bathroom before I realized no, this was definitely not pee. This was my water breaking. And let me just tell you, it did not happen like the “trickle” many people told me to expect. It happened like the movies.

I called Luke and told him to come home. Much to our disbelief, this was all about to really happen. Because of my polyhydramnios diagnosis a few weeks earlier, we had been instructed to go to the hospital immediately if my water were to break first. We knew the risks of cord prolapse were low, but it was a serious enough concern that we knew not to ignore. Soon enough, we had packed our bags and were in the car. Destination Highland Hospital.

At this point I felt no contractions, and our moods were great. Our energy was high, we were happy, and both relatively calm. We checked into triage at 11:00AM, and my first exam at 11:30AM had me at 1.5cm and 60% effaced. Contractions picked up, and labor began naturally. We moved into our delivery room, got settled, and wondered what to do next. Nothing felt intense enough to call our doula. I was moving around, and talking. We got lunch, and watched TV. However by 2 or 3PM the game was changing. Pain was increasing, contractions were more intense, and my demeanor was visibly different. We called our doula, and at 3:30PM I was 3cm, -1 station, and 75% effaced. Things were moving, but moving slowly. I continued laboring naturally for a few more hours. Finding a comfortable position for contractions was becoming more and more difficult. I was 5cm and 90% effaced at 5:45PM but still only -1 station. Somewhere in between vomiting and more vomiting, I asked for an epidural. The medicine was administered by 6:30PM and all was right in the world again. Luke, our doula, and I had another moment of thinking: now what? I was calm again. Happy in fact. And it was just a waiting game. The doctors weren’t pushing Pitocin since I was progressing on my own. So we waited. We shared stories and watched more TV.

But over the next few hours, the nurses struggled to keep Olivia’s heartbeat tracked. I’d move, or she’d move, and we’d lose her heartbeat. It seemed like a constant game. But they’d always find it again.

However the nurses also noticed that with each contraction, her heartbeat dipped. They monitored this closely, and ultimately told me that it wasn’t a huge concern yet. Olivia was “tolerating” it. After each contraction ended, Olivia’s heartbeat would come back up.

If there was any serious concern at this point, the nurses and doctors did a great job keeping that from me.

Just before 9:30PM, the delivering doctor came rushing into our room.

She was talking swiftly, and seriously to the nurse. They’d lost the baby’s heartbeat for the last 6 or 7 minutes. Why haven’t you done anything to get it tracking again? I could sense the seriousness in her voice. It was stern. She spoke quickly. There was even a hint of anger behind her words. You need to get it tracking again. Now. They placed an internal monitor instead. They needed to keep a constant pulse on Olivia’s heart rate, and this was a better method to do so. At the same time, the doctor examined me and to everyone’s surprise I was 10cm, 2+ station, and 100% effaced.

The two doctors seemed to disagree slightly about whether or not it was time to start pushing, since I was feeling no such urge, and no pressure. One doctor’s opinion won, and it was time. As pushing began, my contractions actually slowed down. They were now spaced by 5 minutes, so any progress made during one contraction was lost while we waited another 5 minutes. It was around this same time that we learned Olivia was sunny side up. After only 30 minutes of pushing, the doctors suggested taking a break.

We began a small dose of Pitocin to try and increase the frequency of my contractions, and we used this break to try turning Olivia. The doctors tried to turn her manually, but Olivia was not turning. We tried new positions, but Olivia stayed put.

At some point after 11PM, the doctors showed signs of concern. I don’t know whether it was Olivia’s heart rate, or just the total time that had elapsed. But whatever the reason, it was clear they felt it was time to deliver miss Olivia. They suggested we start pushing again, and use the vacuum to turn her. They would try turning her with the first few pushes, and then remove the vacuum once she had turned so the final delivery would be unassisted. This began around 11:45PM. Initial attempts to turn her with the vacuum were unsuccessful, and the vacuum came off two or three times. I knew from my reading this was dangerous, and there were only so many times it could pop off before they had to stop.

It was becoming more and more clear to Luke and me that the doctors wanted Olivia to be delivered, immediately. The vacuum stayed on. Not just to turn her, but to get her out. As fast as possible.

Olivia was born at 12:12AM on Sunday, April 24. My first words were loud, and full of disbelief. Relief. An overwhelming “oh my god.”

But just as quickly as the words left my mouth, Luke and I knew things were not all right.

Olivia was not breathing. We waited for a cry, but nothing came. She was not brought up to my chest, but instead taken under the lamp, while we continued to wait.

Luke and I heard one short, faint whimper before we heard the sounds of the bag.

We heard the pediatrician say she was “very concerned”, and with that Olivia was taken to the special care room.

We’d later learn that she never began to cry. She never began to breath on her own. The team continued to bag her, and finally, she was intubated. We learned that doctors at Strong Hospital had been contacted, and were on their way to assess Olivia. We heard the words “genetics”. We were told Olivia needed to be transferred immediately to the NICU at Strong, and that a transport team was already being organized.

Everything happened quickly.

I was never moved into a post delivery room at Highland. Instead, I too was transferred to Strong via ambulance. Luke rode with me, and within an hour or two we were transferred, admitted, and waiting to get word from the NICU that it was okay for us to see our baby.

And that’s where my delivery story ends, and Olivia’s story really begins.